This holiday season has been an incredibly hard time for me. Mostly because AJ has been gone, not only for all the holidays, but also for our first anniversary, which was yesterday, but for other reasons as well.
For one, I transferred to a new command. With that comes another problem, when I moved into the barracks I was told that I should move out ASAP since I’m married I’m not actually entitled to having a barracks room. Once I checked in with PSD, I was told that I didn’t need to route a chit, that I simply needed to bring in a copy of my lease and the form stating that I had check out of the barracks. So I return to PSD, both in hand, and I’m told that because my husband is military as well, I do have to route a chit, and unless the barracks are full, I will most likely be denied. Previously it didn’t matter if I was married mil-to-mil, simply that I’m married, and now it does. And I’ve already gone through the trouble of finding an apartment and gIetting everything ready to move in!! I even moved out of the barracks, so I no longer have a place to live until I get moved in, but I can’t afford to have the apartment without getting BAH. So I’m kinda stuck… Thanks PSD and CBH, thanks for all the ‘help’.
All that happened the day I went on leave for Christmas/New Years. Talk about unneeded stress added to an already stressful holiday season. If the people who were there to help had the same information, maybe they wouldn’t have problems like this. Of course, this is the nave we’re talking about.
AJ is due back sometime in March, and I’m really looking forward to it. Unfortunately, I’m set to deploy in July/August, and they will be going to Bremerton, Wa for 16 months of maintenance, then changing home ports to Everett, Washington for at least 3 years. What that boils down to is: On our 2nd anniversary, we will have spend less than a year’s worth of time together, plus we’ll be stationed 1300 miles for at least 2 or 3 years. So for the next 4 years I’m just going to have to keep telling myself “I love my husband, I love my husband, I love my husband.”
Oh did I mention I didn’t even get to talk to him on our anniversary?